Thinking about your passion and purpose is thinking about what you love doing that brings you joy and self-fulfillment. Unlocking your why can be a challenge because with so many things that befall us, people tend to get lost in search of their true identity. Today, we dive into the questions that you have to ask yourself to identify your fervor and the process to follow in finding your purpose and living your passion. On top of that, discover how to bring out your differentiator.
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Finding Your Passion And Purpose
You guys know my passion for Survivor. One of my favorite events, it’s this open casting call for all of those who want to be contestants on the show and it happens every year around this time. People come from all over because there aren’t many open casting calls anymore. People actually travel. We had people from Michigan, South Carolina, New Jersey, all over the place. They came to Orlando, to Cape Canaveral, to Victory Cruise. That’s where this open casting call is held. I get to go there along with some of the other contestants. There were seven of us there. What I do is I stand in the front of the line and I literally talk to every single person on the line, to whoever wants to talk to me.
Some of them do, most of them do and some are in their zone and they’re getting ready. They’ve been standing in line. This is crazy because some of them had been standing in line since the night before, to secure their place. When I started thinking about it, I was thinking that’s a bit crazy because the line itself is only five hours. Why would you come the night before? You could come the day of the event and wait for the full five hours. Somebody was there at 7:00 PM on Saturday. That’s a long time to wait but anyway, those were my thoughts. I figured you could come the day of, wait the five hours and be done. That’s dedication. I’m always talking about commitment and this does demonstrate full commitment to getting on the show. Doing whatever it takes to make things happen. I do like that. Many of the people in line were asking for advice.
They were asking for tips on what they should do to get on the show. My advice was very simple, “Be yourself, be authentic, be you and figure out how to differentiate yourself.” Think of it this way, there were a total of between 700 to 1,000 people standing in line. What I would think that the producers would want, they would want to figure out, “What is your differentiator? Why should we pick you? What are you specifically going to bring to the show that no one else can bring?” These are the same questions that you have to answer in anything that you do in life. Why you? If you have your own business, why should people want to work with you? What are you going to do that is different, that is better, that provides more value than someone else? We learn these life lessons in anything we do all the time throughout our lives. Our topic is about finding your purpose and passion.When you think about your purpose, it's something that you love doing and where you're happiest. Click To Tweet
When I spoke with many of the people, they were certainly passionate about the show. They were passionate about wanting to push themselves and they were confident that they were ready for the challenge. There were others in line who are maybe there for different reasons. There were some of them that came because a friend of them told them, “You would be great for the show, Survivor.” That’s why they decided to come out and try, and some of those people have never even seen the show. This one guy I was talking to, it was his mother’s passion. His mother was a true fan of the show. He didn’t care about it, but he decided that he was going to go out there and prove that he could do the show for his mother’s sake.
People go there for different reasons and these people are giving it a whirl. That’s great even though it’s not their passion. If they don’t get on the show, they don’t care. They went through the process. They won’t think twice about it. It was not something that’s going to haunt them but finding your purpose and your passion is looking at your values and your beliefs. It’s your personality, who you are, how you act every single day. I’ve talked about this before, what is your character? Who are you when no one else is looking? You must think about the thing that you love to do, the things that you’re so passionate about that you will do whatever it takes to make it happen.
There are so many times throughout our lives that we struggle with who we are. We struggle with identifying our true purpose in life, what we were made to do. Who are we supposed to be? How are we supposed to act? We’ll talk about finding your purpose and your passion, and what it takes to bring it to life. I’ve talked to so many people who find it difficult to determine what their purpose is, not because they don’t have things that they like to do. Everyone has things that they like to do, not because they’re not confident but many times, it’s because they find it difficult to uncover what’s special about them, what’s their differentiator. I think that’s the hardest part and even when I was talking to the people, many couldn’t think of what to say about themselves, about their specialty and their uniqueness. Since this is difficult for many, I thought I’d talk about what things can help you find your purpose and what it will take to bring that purpose to life, to live your purpose every single day. Making each day count.
When Was The Time In Your Life When You Were Extremely Happy?
When you think about your purpose, it’s something that you love doing. It’s where you’re happiest. The first thing to do to begin, to identify your purpose is this, go get a pen and a paper because you’re going to want to write down these questions so that you can begin to answer these questions on your own. The first thing is think about a time in your life when you were extremely happy. Close your eyes. What comes to mind? You were on top of the world. What were you doing during that time? Where were you? Who were you with? What we’re looking for is what makes you tick. What is going to put that smile back on your face every single solitary day? Where were you the happiest? You’re painting that picture in your mind and you’re writing down the answers to all of those things. Who you’re with? What did the day look like? Was it an evening? Was it on a beach? Was it during the winter? Were you with your family? Whatever the case, whatever those answers are, you’re going to write them down.
What Have You Done That You Are Most Proud Of?
The second thing is along those same lines, you’re going to answer this question. What have you done that you are most proud of? If someone asked you the question, tell me what you are proudest of about yourself. That’s what we’re getting at. That’s what you have to answer. That is the question that will tie back to getting you happy. You’re proud of yourself being able to do certain things. What are they? When you begin to think this way, we’re starting to dig into what you love doing because if you’re happy, whatever you’re doing at that moment is putting that smile on your face. That means you love doing it.
What Are The Characteristics Of Your Favorite People?
The next question is, what are the qualities that you admire most in other people? Write down the list of those characteristics or those qualities that your favorite people have. Many times, the things that we admire in others are the things that we see in ourselves, not always. If there are skills that you don’t yet have, no worries. We’re going to talk about what to do about that, but what we’re trying to uncover here is when you look for things in other people, those you want to spend time with, people that you feel close to, what specifically are those characteristics? Those are the characteristics that you align with that you feel connected to and that may be linked to the values that you set within yourself.When you think of yourself, you have to be clear in understanding who you are, your personality, your beliefs, and your values. Click To Tweet
What Makes You So Excited?
Think about what gets you going. What makes you so excited? You’ve got flutters all over. It links back to when you were the happiest. It’s something that you can’t wait to do. You look forward to it. You’re super excited when it happens. An example might be, think of a kid going to Disney for the first time. That’s the type of excitement I’m talking about. If you have children or when you were a kid, you were taken to Disney, an amusement park or someplace that you love to go. When your parents told you that you were going, you had a smile from ear to ear, you could not wait. You probably didn’t sleep the night before. It’s Christmas morning every day. That’s the type of excitement I want you to think about. What makes you that excited?
How Happy Are You Every Day?
The next thing is a little bit different because what we were trying to get out here is, how are you living life every day? The question is how happy are you every day? You’ve got to be truthful with yourself. Are you doing the things that make you super excited? If the answer is no, maybe you haven’t found your purpose. Maybe you haven’t found your passion yet. I’m not going to say that there aren’t times throughout our lives where we have responsibilities that require us to do things.
There are plenty of those times and truthfully, that’s always going to happen but there are definitely opportunities throughout the day where you can have some time for yourself, some time to spend on your purpose and on your passion. You may need to set aside that me time. For example, you love working out and you can’t work out every minute of every day because you’ve got to work, you’ve got kids, whatever you have going on that is preventing you from doing that, you can always set aside time to allow yourself to work out. You’ve got to do it. That is an example of something that may get you excited. It may not be your purpose in life. It may not be your passion and that’s fine. We’re getting there.
If There Is One Thing That You Could Change To Make Yourself Happier, What Would It Be?
This is my favorite question to answer. The question that you must answer for yourself is if there is one thing that you could change to make yourself happier, what would it be? What would you change? It really gets you thinking. You have to prioritize what that specific change would be. If you had this magic wand and you can change one thing in your life, what would you change? Don’t we all wish that we had this magic wand? I do, that would be amazing but seriously, you have to think about it like that. Sometimes we get caught up in worrying so much about what other people think because of that, we live our lives for other people. We think we’re supposed to do certain things that other people expect of us. We focus on those things rather than what we want to do.
Are You Doing These Things Because You Think You Should Do Them Because Other People Say So?
The next question to ask yourself is, are you doing that? Are you doing these things because you think you should do them because other people say so? If yes, what are those things that you’re doing that other people are telling you to do? Jot those things down.
What Is The One Thing That You Want To Be A Part Of And You Are Willing To Commit To Accomplishing It?
The last question to answer is, what is the one thing that you want to be a part of and you are willing to commit to accomplishing it? This is not something that you’re doing. This may be something that you really want to be a part of, but you’ve never taken that step. Taking that first step towards commitment. When I was talking about trying out for Survivor. For ten years, I talked about it but I never took that step. Once I took that step, I was committed to it. I made it happen. The process that we went through is the process for uncovering what is truly important to you. Once you’ve answered all of those questions, you’ll have a good idea of what you’re passionate about.
When you think of yourself, you have to be clear in understanding who you are, your personality, your beliefs and your values. You can’t go any farther down this path and on this journey until you understand completely what you’re all about. That’s why these questions are so critical to answer. You must be honest about what’s important to you and why is it important to you. Don’t worry about what other people think. This is your exercise alone. If you truly want to find your purpose and live your passion, then this is the process that you have to follow. Step one, we talked about is this inward look at the things that are important to us. What makes us happy? What are the things standing in the way of our true happiness? What are the things that you may need to stop doing going forward?Learn everything you can. Never stop learning and stay on top of everything in your area. Click To Tweet
This next step is to think about what impact you’ll have. You figured out your purpose, you understand what excites you and you’re passionate about it. How is it going to impact other people? Will it impact other people? What is the impact that it’s going to have? What difference do you want to make? Do you want to be a role model? Do you want to teach others to do something? Do you want to start a movement? Do you want to help others succeed? What is the impact that you want to have? This is a tough step because not only do you have to identify what the impact is, but you have to quantify it and you have to clearly define it. It must be measurable because if it isn’t, then how will you ever know whether you achieved it? You won’t.
This step, sometimes, is one that people stumble through. One example can be that someone has defined for themselves that they love to work out, they love to stay fit, they love to push themselves to do more, their personality is outgoing, they feel good when people notice they’re fit, they value good health and healthy living. They believe that they can help other people achieve their fitness goals. When they think about their impact, it can be broad or they can begin to drill it down to a niche if that meets their needs. Maybe their impact is focused on women, maybe it’s women over 40. They want to help women over 40 reach their fitness goals, whatever those are or they may want to develop a global program for women over 40 who have never worked out before.
There are so many different things that you can come up with. The point is that you must find the one that you’re passionate about. You must be able to define it to be able to discuss what success looks like. It has to be so clear in your mind that you can clearly articulate it to others. I’m focusing on this point because so many times we don’t determine the impact that we’re looking for. We give up because we don’t measure whether we’re achieving it or not. This is an exercise that you have to go through. Close your eyes. Think about what your purpose is from the list of questions that you answered in the first place, and visualize what success looks like.
Are you standing on a podium collecting a medal? Are you standing at the stock exchange during opening bell, cutting the ribbon because your company went public? Are you onstage thanking all the people who helped you to change a regulation for identifying harmful things in our food? I don’t know. I’m making stuff up. It doesn’t really matter. Those are some examples. The point is I want you to actually see the end game when you have made a difference when you are impacting people that you wanted to impact, that’s a success. The difference you want to make must be so clear to you that you can see the result and those things are not easy.
Here’s where things begin to come together and if you want to be able to live your passion every day, then this step is critical. This step is identifying what the world needs. If you want to be able to impact others and make a living at the same time, you’ve got to figure out what people need. Are they willing to spend money on the thing that you’re providing them on the impact or the value that you’re providing? How was your impact going to help others and do they think it is as important as you do? Are they willing to pay something for it? New inventions happen all the time. Years ago, I’m sure that no one was thinking about how convenient it would be to carry a phone with us all the time.
I know I wasn’t thinking about that. We probably never thought that we would be texting people because we didn’t even know what texting was at the time. There are things that